Get Rid Of Mindset and Find Your Mindflow

We have all become familiar with the basics of mindset, initially discussed by world-renowned Stanford University psychologist Carol Dwecks in her book, Mindset: The New Psychology of Success. Dweck stated that the beliefs of ourselves has to do with “how we view and inhabit what we consider to be our personality”. This can be done either in a fixed or growth mindset.

Believing that your qualities are carved in stone — the fixed mindset — creates an urgency to prove yourself over and over. If you have only a certain amount of intelligence, a certain personality, and a certain moral character — well, then you’d better prove that you have a healthy dose of them. It simply wouldn’t do to look or feel deficient in these most basic characteristics.

However..

There’s another mindset in which these traits are not simply a hand you’re dealt and have to live with, always trying to convince yourself and others that you have a royal flush when you’re secretly worried it’s a pair of tens. In this mindset, the hand you’re dealt is just the starting point for development. This growth mindset is based on the belief that your basic qualities are things you can cultivate through your efforts. Although people may differ in every which way — in their initial talents and aptitudes, interests, or temperaments — everyone can change and grow through application and experience.

Mindflow is the absence of mindset.

I am so stuck!

In my practice, I continue to run into this complaint so often that after observing the commonalities of those who believe want to change, and have the desire to change, can in fact be standing in their own way, while trying to find solutions.

Let’s say you want to change something about yourself. Having a growth mindset may sound great, until you keep finding yourself at square one with every attempt. This may cause some unwelcome emotions that can fester inside, and make things worse. Feeling the need to grow and change from the way you currently exist, when it seems like you may be failing with every turn, is not a fun place to be. You may say that having a growth mindset is exactly what you need in a situation like this. But it is the idea of setting a mental picture of yourself, that if you do not grow you will fail, is part of the problem of having any sort of mindset. It is the idea of believing that you can grow and change from the current situation no matter what.

However..

There is nothing set about growth and change. There is nothing set in your mind that enables you to accomplish this shift. You may think I am arguing semantics here but as we all know, words are powerful and they are spell casting. To say you want to change a mindset from one state to another implies you are setting your mind from one perspective to the next and then becoming fixated on that.

Do not have your mind setting but have your mind flowing. Flow is “the mental state of operation in which a person performing an activity is fully immersed in a feeling of energized focus, full involvement, and enjoyment in the process of the activity.”

When your mind is in flow then it can find those exact places that are needed for you to gain a perspective shift thus enabling you to go from one state to another without needing to set. This way if you need to flow to yet another state, and you continuously think that your mind is in flow, your will and capability associated with that perspective shift can be more aligned. When you tell yourself you want to make a change in your life and you truly commit to it, it is the flow state that enables the manifestation of change and not the “mindset” you put yourself in. We say all sorts of things about how we want to live our lives, and we can pretend to have a growth mindset around that intent, but if we do not find our mindflow, which transforms belief into action, nothing will ever change.

Mindflow takes us away from the power of the mind itself in why we accomplish our goals to a full body experience fueled by our emotions and heart that gets us into this flow state. The mind is a great tool to help us plan for where we want to go but it is our heart that will get us there.

Our actions to greatness will always be tied into the dedication of love for what we do.

Find your mindflow and let go of trying to set your mind into any container that may be difficult to get out of later. Your future self is waiting.